ChaCha Query: How do you get the guy you love to love you back?

Oh how I wish someone had told me about this back when I was single and dating.  I fell so hard and fast for the guys I dated, but I was the only one trying.  If you haven’t read the book or seen the movie He’s Just Not That Into You, you should check it out!

If a guy loves you, he loves you.  You can’t force it in any way.  You can be so sure that a guy is the perfect one for you, that if you could just morph yourself into this perfect person for them, then they’d be yours forever.  Guys are not that complicated.  If they really like you or care about you, they make the effort.  They fall for you in spite of themselves.  You can’t force love, and you can’t force a connection or spark with someone.  It’s either there or it’s not.  I wish someone had smacked me upside the head with that information a long time ago!

My husband is the first guy I dated where it wasn’t a huge effort on my part to make it work.  We both equally called each other because we wanted to.  We spent a lot of time together because we wanted to, equally.  I never believed any of my friends until it really happened for me.  When you are the one doing all of the work, it isn’t worth it.  You deserve to be just as important to your boyfriend as he is to you.  Don’t settle for less than that!