ChaCha Query: How can you get a girl to fall for you instead of someone better than you?

Don’t ever underestimate what confidence does for your chances with a girl.  What makes this other person better than you?  Is it because you think they are cooler than you, or better looking than you?  With girls, it isn’t all about that.  Sure being attractive is a plus, but not having the personality to back that up will cause you to fail too.

First figure out your strengths, maybe you are the funny guy, or the smart guy.  If you can figure out what people like about your personality, and use that to your advantage.  Don’t ever be fake and try to be something you’re not.  Use your strengths, not someone else’s.

Second I’d advise you to update your look.  Maybe you’ve been stuck with a certain haircut since grade school, try something new but be careful.  Ask some of your girl friends what they think you could do to improve your overall look.  They’ll love to do your make-over.  Sometimes it’s as simple as updating your style of jeans, or your shoes.  Do something that improves how you feel about yourself.

Make her feel comfortable with you.  Find out her interests and what you two may have in common.  Listen to her when she talks to you and ask questions, but keep it fun and flirty.  At the same time you are available for her, don’t be too available.  Keep her guessing a little, girls like the chase as much as guys do.

Also, stick to what you say, and be a man of your word.  She needs to know she can trust you.  Have fun and if it doesn’t work out, don’t let it get you down.  Use what you learned from that experience with the next girl you are interested in.  Dating is all about learning about yourself and what you are really looking for in another person!  Good Luck!